Semimar on Relationship
Topic: Choosing The Right Partner
Minister: Pst Odedoyin Abayomi
Let’s check what partnership means. Partnership with regards to intimacy is a relationship between two people who AGREE to SHARE the responsibility involved in achieving a goal. It takes two not one or one and half, so each person is bringing the same energy, vibe, ginger, level of commitment. Can two work together except they agree? NO! So there must be an agreement to a very large extent in belief, value, dreams and aspirations. There is no 100percent partner anywhere.
Maybe you should ask yourself if you are 100percent, God has a purpose for our lives and He can use anybody in the Kingdom to make it find complete expression. So what you would need do is to check for certain traits, fix yourself, have peace and conviction in your heart.
You must be right by yourself before looking for a right partner. You simply attract the kind of person you are
As much as you are looking for some traits, you must possess them as well. Some of What to Consider when looking for a right partner include;
GOD FEARING: He or she must have a serious relationship with God. If he or she doesn’t understand relationship with God, how can he then hold you in a godly relationship, so he must be in the Kingdom, I mean he should be a Believer. So having a partner outside the kingdom is the beginning of confusion and destruction. Let me ask you a question
(If two get married from two different beliefs,for example Christian and a Muslim, who would they call upon when there is storm in their boat?When the disciples had a storm on their boat who did they jointly call upon?It isJesus, and he sorted their issue for them immediately and there was calmness everywhere. So, for the sake of peace at ones home and life, you must not settle for someone outside the kingdom regardless of how the things is doing you.(affection) smiles! Adam got everything in the same kingdom. You cannot be looking for someone who is a man of the spirit and you are now far from the spirit. I will like you to pray this evening and tell God to pour his desire upon your heart and teach you the truth about this subject. Adam had fellowship with God first before the woman showed up. A consistent relationship and fellowship with God is the thing you check out for
PURPOSE: God gave Adam purpose and assignment until he started fulfilling it, the woman wasn’t given to him. And it’s important you first know who you are and what your purpose is before you start looking for a right partner. If you don’t understand purpose, even if you have the right partner, you could still mess up. So, understading purpose is key before asking someone to work life with you. Now, you have to be careful here as so many carry something but really they are going nowhere. Don’t be a victim of talkers, there are some people that really know their purpose but it will amaze you they are not doing anything to fulfill it. So, you first must understand your purpose after which you look for a purpose driven partner whom you know his purpose will fit into your own.
MATURITY: Age isn’t a major requirement because it varies as people can really under perform. Never say Yes to a Man because he is 32 and you are 22, so in your mind you feel he must have gathered plenty experiences and be ready, that’s not smart. However marriage isn’t for babies, this is basically talking about maturity. So, under maturity, check out for….
Understanding
Conflict resolution
Handling emotions
Tolerance of minor issues.
You also must have work on yourself such that you can manage your single hood. Some people think marriage will kill boredom (smiles)
You should have learnt how to deal with boredom when you are still single
ACCOUNTABILITY: The person should be accountable to at least one person. A partner that can’t be reported is a dangerous man. There should be someone he would be answerable to. This will help incase issues arise which is beyond what you both can settle or others
TEACHABLE: Is the partner teachable by the Holy Spirit, you or other important people. The partner should be flexible to learn and unlearn. And ready to make things right.
WORK: The partner must be hardworking, check out for work. The partner shouldn’t be idle. NO RIGHT PARTNER SHOULD BE IDLE, PRAY WELL, GATHER KNOWLEDGE, WORK VIGOROUSLY ON YOURSELF.
There are people who look for shapes and curves, money in the account, how macho the guy is,all this are shadows and it can’t hold any right partner for long because as time goes on, the present one will dissolve and better and sense making ones will reappear out side. And some Christians want to check out for gift, because the person can pray in tongues for 12hours a day, along the sister can sing, he is a pastor, all of this really are not strong enough. Look out for the fruit of the spirit not necessarily the gift alone.
The hallmark our spirituality is not in our gifting but our fruit. Dont go for swag, tongue speaking and lots more. Recently a Pastor in a denomination stabbed his wife to death 74times, he kept shooking the woman until she died. Don’t just ask the guy if he loves you, ask if he loves God.
Thanks for reading up.
God bless you all.
