©️Opeyemi Akintunde
“Sandra, how do you do it?” I asked with high expectations for the solution to my problem.
“Do what?” She replied as she was clueless about my admiration of her.
“Get boys to like you, date you?” I asked bluntly
“I don’t understand” She Opened her eyes widely
“Sandra, boys don’t ask me out,” I said soberly
“OK?,” She said raising her brow in a question form
“I don’t have a boyfriend, I mean no boy has ever asked me out,” I said in plain words.
Sandra went mute for a few seconds…
“Are you serious?” She asked in a whisper after she found her voice
“Yes”
“Well, that could be because of your holier than thou attitude… You know you don’t smile” She said like she was a Master in the relationship world.
“I smile” I argued
“You smile amongst your female friends” Sandra countered
“Girl, if you like a guy, flirt with him, and he will come running towards you. Guys are like dogs, have a bone before them and they come running after you…” She said like a Pro that she was
” Only few disciplined dogs will not follow a stranger’s bone, in the same way only few men do not run after a lady that flirts with them, but the majority does.” Sandra said
“Flirt?” I asked looking very ignorant
“Yes, smile at them, stare at them intentionally, lead them on, just like you wave a bone in front of a dog, flirt with a guy and he will come chasing after you…”
I became an expert for two years, I flirted my way into the hearts and pockets of guys. I derived joy in it. I became one of the most talked about girls on campus, but I guess my mother’s prayers were always with me. I never caught any of the incurable diseases in all my escapades.
After graduating, I became exhausted from being the one going after guys before they found me worthy. I resulted back to my mother’s opinion.
I told her I was still waiting for my future man, and she kept saying,
“God is preparing him, it is possible the young man is not yet ready”
I got a job as a banker, and through flirting, I got good clients to bank with us. I ended up sleeping with most of them. I did this for three years.
By the time I was 23, I had lost my appetite for flirting as I was the one doing the chasing and none of the men I flirted my way to their hearts found me worthy to settle down with.
I decided to return to my mother again.
“Mummy, the future man still has not shown up, I have been meeting unfortunate boys who use and dump me”
“That’s because you have been doing it your way… Did you ever pray on any of these guys before saying yes to them”
“No”… I said but I couldn’t tell her I was the one pulling them to me, therefore after having sex with me, they lost their appetites for me. One of the disadvantages of flirting for me was that after the men ended up sleeping with me, there is always an instant hatred and disgust for me.
“Promise you are not an ordinary child, you are a child of promise, I waited eight years to have you, therefore your life cannot follow the waves, you can’t be like everybody. I know the Lord has prepared a man for you, but you need to sit with God, be calm and hold your peace….”
“Mummy so what should I do? I am 23 already, some of my friends got married at 20…. should I just fold my hands and wait for Mr. Right?”
“Ruth got busy on the field, it was on the field Boaz saw her… Promise get busy, stop waiting for Mr. Right … Work, get closer to God and Mr Right will come when you least expect…” My mother would always say.
I waited all through age 23, age 24, age 25 and a few months of age 26. It was three months after my 26th birthday that I met Bishop Tolu Texas and he prophesied to me that I would meet my husband that same month…
A lot of you reading this story would have thought of me as being cheap when I rushed at Shola’s interest in me. Let me state for the records; Shola was the first man to ever show interest in me without me facilitating it.
He was the first man to gush about me, telling me on the flight how beautiful I was. That had never happened to me before.
Looking back now, I believe the encounter that I had with Bishop Tolu Texas, some hours earlier made attracted favour and made me all glorious that day, hence Shola was attracted to me…
Prior to that, I had never had a man tell me I was beautiful and wanted to have something serious with me.
I immediately connected Shola to the prophecy, and just like I had learnt from flirting to rush a man when they had eyes on you, I hurriedly contacted him and before he slipped off my hands we got married.
It was therefore a rude shock the day I saw F.D in our hotel room and there was an instant deep likeness and attraction towards him.
I couldn’t and can’t still explain the feeling of excitement in my heart and simultaneously, the feeling of loss…
I ran after him wanting to know more about him, I wanted to be sure if I had met him before but he denied knowing me.
I returned to the hotel room, but I couldn’t think of anything else. That was when the old devil in me resurfaced…
The Flirtatious spirit…
I wanted to know why my heart responded the way it did and I believe you know how it all went down in 24hours…
Fast-forward to leaving the hotel in a rush after Shola saw us at the Blue Carnival, my life became hell afterwards…
Shola despised me, to the point of calling me a dog, a prostitute, a cheap being and so on…
When we got to his house, he moved my things to another room and for two years before his demise, he never touched me…
His demise… What’s the true story behind his demise?
Heart attack? or something else? Well, that’s a story for another day …
To be continued…
